I do thoroughly apologize for such a huge gap in posts, I have gone through the most eye opening divorce and self discovery these past few years and it has made me a stronger, wiser woman.
I was with a man who treated me like a contrat not a person, like his mother not a mother if his children amd my hands are no clean either we both could if handled things better but we are now more harmonious as co-parenters then we ever were as partners.
I am the one who finally threw in the towel, this upcoming Feb 1 will mark 3 years ago we called a truce and divorced to be better healthy people whom co-exist seperate sides of the state and co-parent with kids. It’s not always pretty, but it’s not as ugly either a muatual respect and communication which I have issues from time to time.
I could thrash me ex for alot of damage he’s done but it won’t heal me any quicker or give me that much more closure or karma.
I’ve tried my best to explain to my kids sometimes you love someone but not in a way you once did and that’s ok everyone changes and it happens it doesn’t mean you are less loved or to blame it means as adults we accepted it was not working and decided to be friends and find our own happiness.
I’ve had my anxiety come back as a result, single parenting smart curious creative divas is hard. Through a mutual agreement he has the oldest I have the youngest whom has an IEP for speech and some other delayed learning. Which is fine, since I am currently back at my mom’s house with one kid full time and the other every other weekend both are happy amd loved and don’t ask me to get back with their dad as much as they used too.
My soon to be 7 year old took it the hardest, she was 4 when we decides to just disassemble and divorce. The utter heartbreak of having these kids cry for daddy the first months after he moved out were heart breaking alot of snuggling, talking and reminding them they couldn’t have changed it and that we will all be a better stronger family.
So much to catch you all up on, will do my best to recall as much as possible. I apologize for any mispell my small hobbit hands on this phone app are still becoming aquainted.
So sit back and relax for some of these stories, they are true genuine and I simply cannot make this crap up.